(23 June 2019)
This might sound pessimistic, but when it comes to love relationships, life proves itself to be complex, too complex for us to be able to come up with a set of rules or guidelines that will solve all the problems. We can try, and sometimes we will succeed in small aspects, but in the end, we have to accept it as it is. It is important to understand this, because otherwise, we will have all sorts of wrong expectations that will only create trouble.
There are many factors involved in relationships, one of the most important ones being communication. Currently, the world is struggling when it comes to dealing with how individuals should interact in order to create beautiful relationships. The old ways are no longer reliable. Everyone seems to be left to choose his/her own approach and hope for the best. The problem is that most people don’t know what to do, how to act, how to communicate their desire and intention. Not only this, but the whole idea of talking about how to build relationships is not always considered socially acceptable. So not only that we don’t know how to deal with this, but we are also afraid of searching for better solutions.
We don’t know how to express that we desire a relationship and we don’t know how to reject when such desires are expressed. We inevitably end up in conflict.
There is no simple answer to this whole problem, but there are improvements that can be made. Small improvements in the way we approach relationships can create big changes in our lives.
We first need to be aware of this whole problem and then be willing and interested in finding a solution. We need to first have the desire to solve this and to be willing to become vulnerable and put the effort into solving this. We need to be willing to discuss about this topic.
As individuals, there are small steps we can take in this direction:
– start talking about relationships as a general topic;
– stop criticizing people who talk about this, even if they fail;
– stop lying to ourselves and to others;
– stop building defenses and taboos;
– start practicing being more vulnerable.
In the end, we have to accept our situation and at the same time, hope for a better future.
But behavior in the human being is sometimes a defense, a way of concealing motives and thoughts, as language can be a way of hiding your thoughts and preventing communication.
— Abraham Maslow
